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Helen Keller

The focus of our charity is to provide another alternative for the unexpectedly pregnant woman. We’d like to make it possible for a woman who finds herself pregnant and unable to care for a baby to have the chance to get to know her child and be reunited with her child in the future when she is in a better position to care for him/her.

We believe that many women who find themselves unexpectedly pregnant choose adoption or abortion, not out of lack of love for their child, but out of a lack of an alternative. The result being that it is very difficult or impossible for her to ever have a relationship with her child.

We want to help the expectant mother find loving, nurturing volunteer guardians who will care for her child while she is unable to do so, while still allowing her to have a relationship with her child.  The goal being that the volunteer guardians will mentor her and guide her until she feels ready to care for her child herself.

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More Information

It is the mission of Options Beyond Adoption to provide another choice, another option to women who have an unplanned pregnancy. Our new option is for the expectant mother who wants to keep her child, but believes her circumstances right now do not allow for her to raise her baby.

We will allow the expectant mother to choose volunteer guardians for her baby. These volunteer guardians will care for the child and work with the mother to help her get to the point where she can care for her child herself. The volunteer guardians agree to return the baby to the mother when the mother believes she is ready to raise her child.

The expectant mother will also be provided a list of attorneys who will help her with her questions about guardianship. She will choose her own attorney. After the baby is born, if the mother still wants to have her chosen volunteer guardians raise her child until she becomes capable, she will provide her volunteer guardians with a medical power of attorney.

Options Beyond Adoption expects to provide help and hope in the form of the following services:

  1. Provide women with an unplanned pregnancy the option to select a volunteer guardian for her baby until she is capable of raising her baby herself. We will provide a list of volunteer guardians, approved by the Options Beyond Adoption board, for her to choose from.
  2. Her selected volunteer guardians and the expectant mother will immediately enter into a mentorship relationship. They will work together to produce a plan, with a specified time frame, to meet her needs. This plan will have milestones for the mother to meet so she can recover from her current problems and move towards a situation that allows her to care for her child herself.
  3. The mother and volunteer guardians will meet frequently during the pregnancy and after the baby is born. The mentorship relationship between them is critical to the successful and timely return of the baby to the mother.

Options Beyond Adoption is established as a non-profit corporation under the applicable laws of the State of New Mexico and is a non-profit corporation with tax exempt status under section 501 (c) (3) of the Internal Revenue Code. Our office will initially be housed at 7729 RC Gorman NE, Albuquerque, New Mexico, 87122, but may move as our successes increase.

Expectant Mother’s

The focus of our charity is to provide another alternative for the unexpectedly pregnant mother. We believe that any woman who finds herself pregnant and unable to care for a baby now deserves the chance to be reunited with her child in the future, when she is in a better position to care for him/her.

We believe many women in similar situations currently have abortions, not out of lack of love for their child, but out of a lack of an alternative. We want to provide that alternative.

The Options Beyond Adoption Expectant Mother Process

We will provide you, the expectant mother, with a list of people who have been approved by the Options Beyond Adoption Board of Directors to become volunteer guardians for your baby.

We will provide you with a list of names of New Mexico attorneys who are willing to advise you on the legal processes to give medical powers of attorney and guardianship to your selected volunteer guardian. We recommend you select your attorney soon and discuss the guardianship issues with your attorney early in your pregnancy.

After you have decided to meet with possible volunteer guardians, you should visit with them and get to know them. If you are satisfied that you want them as your volunteer guardians for your baby, then you should work with them to establish a plan for things you need to do to become ready to raise your baby. If the first selected volunteer guardians are not acceptable to you, then select another volunteer guardian and begin a relationship with them. Continue this process until you are satisfied with the volunteer guardians you have selected. You may ask these people anything you want to know about them and their family, before you decide who you want to care for your baby.

Your selected volunteer guardians will establish a loving, mentoring relationship with you and will work with you to develop a plan with milestones so you can be ready to raise your baby yourself. The timing is totally up to you and your selected volunteer guardians. You recognize that this continued mentoring relationship with your selected volunteer guardians is extremely important to you, your baby, and the volunteer guardians throughout your pregnancy and the guardianship period. Your continued mentoring relationship will enhance your ability to raise your baby and have your baby returned to you as soon as possible.

After the baby is born and if you still want your selected volunteer guardians to care for your baby and they are still willing to become volunteer guardians, then you give them a medical power of attorney.

Once you decide who you want to care for your infant, our work with you and our charity’s involvement is over. We will provide you a list of referrals for you to choose an agency that is willing to continue to assist you and the volunteer guardians in the mentorship process. This continued mentorship process is critical for you to work within your plan to accomplish the tasks necessary for you to raise your baby. The volunteer guardians will be there to mentor you and help you to the best of their abilities.

You understand that should you not meet your time frames or milestones within your plan to enable you to care for your baby, the volunteer guardians may have to go to court to change their status. The court will act in the best interests of your baby and could formalize the temporary guardianship, appoint new legal guardians, or allow for an adoption, or refer to CYFD.

You understand that many unexpected and unforeseen things can happen to the volunteer guardians, you or your baby that may require the guardianship to change. Unforeseen illnesses, unexpected death or injuries, financial crises, and numerous other things could happen that may result in the volunteer guardians being unable to care for your baby. You understand and agree that it is your responsibility to be there for your baby and the volunteer guardians to help resolve any unforeseen issues that may arise. This could result in a change of guardianship. The new guardian could be you, if you are ready. You should discuss these possibilities with your attorney.

You are giving temporary guardianship of your baby to people you have chosen. You are still the mother and parent to the baby and have a responsibility to be in their lives, so you can, as quickly as possible be able to care for and raise your baby.

If you have any questions or concerns, please ask anytime.

Please click the button below if you would like to submit a form to start the process of finding a volunteer guardian with us. 

Volunteer Guardians

The focus of our charity is to provide another alternative for the unexpectedly pregnant mother. We believe that any woman who finds herself pregnant and unable to care for a baby now deserves the chance to be reunited with her child in the future, when she is in a better position to care for him/her.

We believe many women in similar situations currently have abortions, not out of lack of love for their child, but out of a lack of an alternative. We want to provide that alternative.

The Options Beyond Adoption Volunteer Guardian Process

You are volunteering to be a temporary guardian for a pregnant mother who may have been considering an abortion. All the information you provide to us will be shown to the pregnant mother.

Beyond our basic requested information, we encourage you to provide significant additional information that you would like that mother to know about you. This could include pictures, videos of you and your family, a statement to her about your desire to help her and her baby through her difficult time. Present anything that you would like for her to consider that you think would help her to decide to select you as temporary guardians for her baby.

Volunteer temporary guardians will fill out a statement of understanding which will contain the following:

  • Personal information, including all the people in the home.
  • An understanding that you, the volunteer guardian, will be raising the baby with the agreement to return the baby to the mother when the mother terminates the guardianship agreement.
  • Consent to criminal records checks on all adults living in the home, including but not limited to local police records check, state criminal records check, federal criminal records check, drug listing check, paternity site checks, sex offender list, and child and neglect check.
  • Credit Check
  • References from at least three unrelated people who can attest to your character and suitability to be a volunteer guardian of a baby.
  • Provide all requested medical information on all members of the household including vaccinations and immunizations in order to protect the safety of the baby.
  • Provide your health insurance to prove the baby will be adequately covered. If the baby will not be able to be covered on your health insurance the baby will have to be registered for Medicaid and the mother will have to sign medical/dental care authorization.
  • Consent to licensed adoption and foster care volunteers and assistants to visit you and your families and your homes.
  • Agreement to develop a mentoring relationship with the mother (father if in the picture) to show her how to love and raise her baby and show her what a loving family should be.
  • Agree to empower the mother to make decisions for herself to work toward reuniting with her baby.
  • Agree to not enable the mother by providing money or a place to stay in your home. Empower the mother to make her own decisions, but also to live with those consequences in a loving mentoring manner.
  • Agree to work with the mother to develop a plan with milestones that will get the mother to the point of being capable of raising her baby within the timeframes agreed to and set in the plan.
  • Agree to provide any other information our charity deems necessary to protect the baby.
  • An understanding that it is the mother who will select the volunteer guardian and that she will form a close relationship with the selected volunteer guardians before the birth of the child and she could change her mind at any time.
  • Their understanding that our charity’s involvement ends when the mother decides who she wants to care for the baby.

Our charity will provide a referral list of organizations that will help with the mentoring process and follow through with you and the mother.

You understand that you must report any and all suspected child abuse or neglect. You will be required to sign a statement to that effect. New Mexico requires that ALL adults are required to report any suspected child abuse or neglect.